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constrictive clothing
Black leather dress.
I now own a black leather skin-tight dress.
Oh, I love my reflection in the mirror.
Pity my high heels are over in Moscow. They would complete the look.
Lately I see a lot of feminists arguing about female constrictive clothing and female body's sexuality being visibly demonstrated. Boobsquake is just another example: is showing your cleavage a feminist gesture, a flipping off the patriarchy, or it is another internalized objectification? And a more general arguement: wearing clothing that is considered 'sexy' and 'feminine' in mainstream culture, constrictive clothing and make-up - is it bending over for patriarchy, or a feminist re-appropriation?
I think it's all about who decides what you are wearing: yourself or this tiny voice inside saying that this is how 'real women dress to get men and be a good wife'.
I wear things with low cleavage (and I have a lot of cleavage). I wear short skirts. I wear skin-tight dresses. I wear high heels. I wear stockings. I wear corsets laced so tight it's hard to breath. I wear make-up. When I'm in the mood.
I can go days in the same pants and comfortable t-shirts and low-heeled shoes and no make-up at all. I can wear men's shirts and ties and jackets. I can wear a sweater I've found among clothes I was wearing as a child - lavender with plushy bears and too-short sleeves - because I'm in the mood.
Sometimes, I wear things to attract attention. But I always wear them for myself, first. I used to wear high heels while alone at home just because I liked the feeling. (High heels and comfy camouflage pants. Yup.)
I don't even link my clothes with my gender. When I'm in a male phase, I still wear dresses and skirts and heels from time to time. They just feel like drag. Now, during a female phase, they feel more like fun I'm having with mainstream ideas about my own gender and 'feminine' clothes.
The point of it all is: I'm the one who decides what to wear and how to present my body to the world. Both patriarchy which says I should look sexy but not too much and wear things that make me uncomfortable and doll-like but pretty for the men, and the kind of feminists who say I should not wear those 'objectifying' things and shouldn't shake my boobies to make fun of the religious bigot - fuck off. Nobody says what I should or shouldn't do.
I now own a black leather skin-tight dress.
Oh, I love my reflection in the mirror.
Pity my high heels are over in Moscow. They would complete the look.
Lately I see a lot of feminists arguing about female constrictive clothing and female body's sexuality being visibly demonstrated. Boobsquake is just another example: is showing your cleavage a feminist gesture, a flipping off the patriarchy, or it is another internalized objectification? And a more general arguement: wearing clothing that is considered 'sexy' and 'feminine' in mainstream culture, constrictive clothing and make-up - is it bending over for patriarchy, or a feminist re-appropriation?
I think it's all about who decides what you are wearing: yourself or this tiny voice inside saying that this is how 'real women dress to get men and be a good wife'.
I wear things with low cleavage (and I have a lot of cleavage). I wear short skirts. I wear skin-tight dresses. I wear high heels. I wear stockings. I wear corsets laced so tight it's hard to breath. I wear make-up. When I'm in the mood.
I can go days in the same pants and comfortable t-shirts and low-heeled shoes and no make-up at all. I can wear men's shirts and ties and jackets. I can wear a sweater I've found among clothes I was wearing as a child - lavender with plushy bears and too-short sleeves - because I'm in the mood.
Sometimes, I wear things to attract attention. But I always wear them for myself, first. I used to wear high heels while alone at home just because I liked the feeling. (High heels and comfy camouflage pants. Yup.)
I don't even link my clothes with my gender. When I'm in a male phase, I still wear dresses and skirts and heels from time to time. They just feel like drag. Now, during a female phase, they feel more like fun I'm having with mainstream ideas about my own gender and 'feminine' clothes.
The point of it all is: I'm the one who decides what to wear and how to present my body to the world. Both patriarchy which says I should look sexy but not too much and wear things that make me uncomfortable and doll-like but pretty for the men, and the kind of feminists who say I should not wear those 'objectifying' things and shouldn't shake my boobies to make fun of the religious bigot - fuck off. Nobody says what I should or shouldn't do.